Tuesday, April 29, 2014


So is it eavesdropping if you're just sitting there and people are making no attempt to conceal their conversation from you? Because I'm sitting here at dance, and while no one is talking *to* me (ha! Big surprise! ;-) ), they are talking around me. The subject? A school dance. For middle schoolers. I remember back to my 8th grade dance. I went with friends. I had fun. I did dance with boys, but I didn't go with a boy. I actually don't remember anyone going with a "date." Everyone went with groups of friends.

Apparently, though, at this particular 8th grade dance in our school district, boys are going to such outlandish lengths to ask girls to this dance that there will be nothing left for prom. I'm guessing they are going to have to rent airplanes with signs attached to get prom dates. This makes me so sad! At 13 or 14 you're going to have this amazing moment that, to be honest, I don't even think you should have at 17 or 18? What is there left to look forward to? It's already hard for kids not to be jaded when they have all this technology and instant gratification. Shouldn't these grand gestures be saved for, oh - I don't know - marriage proposals? Do people still do that? Get married? Propose?

Personally, I'm not much for grand gestures. I was very happy with the way I was asked to prom by my high school boyfriend (Requiescat in Pace, MDH) and I was thrilled with my sweet and romantic marriage proposal. However, if grand gestures are the stuff of the life of an 8th grade girl, there's nothing left for a 23 or 24 year old woman. Am I wrong? What do y'all think?


  1. Totally agree. Why aren't parents squashing this?

  2. Because they are living vicariously. Because even if they protest on the surface, they are secretly proud that their daughter is the one being courted most aggressively. But you knew that already.